A New Year has jumped through the gates…
…allowing us to glance wistfully in the rear-view mirror at 2018 and briefly ponder all of the missed opportunities that we let pass us by.
Hindsight can be a terrible thing, and there’s something truly terrible about regrets. Every year I attempt to make a list of all the things that I want to achieve, yet somehow, by the end of the year, there are always items yet to be ticked off and I find myself mourning for a past which is just out of reach. When you reach the grand old age that I’ve got to it becomes the accumulation of these botched resolutions and half-achieved dreams becomes thoroughly dispiriting, but after over 60 years into this game of life I actually might have learnt a way of avoiding this annual melancholy.
There is no ‘New Year’
The greatest epiphany that I’ve yet to have is that there is no such thing as a ‘New Year’. Talk to any other ‘old person’ like me and they’ll tell you the same thing. The longer you live for, the less meaning you attribute to annual events. Once you’ve experience over 50 birthdays, it can become increasingly difficult to remember more than a handful without the aid of photographs. Christmases can be even more tricky to keep track of. The traditions and formalities make it difficult to differentiate them; only by recalling when family members leave or pass away can you hope to put a pin in a particular year.
The same feeling can be attributed to New Year celebrations. Unfortunately, the more New Years that you live for, the more effort it will take to get yourself excited for them. Here’s my reasoning, if you can’t get thrilled about New Year, then why even pay it any attention? Forget about making your New Year’s Resolutions and make your goals, dreams and targets lifelong.
Whilst this concept might sound a little scary, there’s no need to be frightened. Making a lifelong resolution is simply a great way of restructuring your priorities, which allows you to realign your ambitions and motivate yourself into becoming a stronger person. Take my aim of quitting smoking, this was something that I’d wanted to do for a log time, but wanting to do something and actually doing it are two very different things indeed.
For years I would be stuck in a cycle of attempting to quit at New Year and then caving in for yet another year. Taking away the distinctions of a New Year allowed me to see the next day as just that, rather than another day in another year. Making a lifelong resolution to quit smoking was tantamount to me getting healthier and getting a better understanding of my life.
Open Your Heart To New Experiences
Although the old adage ‘there’s no time like the present’ might be a tired one, you can rest assured that it only gets more relevant as you get older. Taking the bull by the horns should be your top priority when it comes to tackling your lifelong resolutions, there is no other way of achieving your goals than putting one foot in front of the other and taking that first step, so what are you waiting for?